Is there a right way to propose?

After what has probably been a few long months, I have experienced a few major changes in my life so far. So much so that I think I’m gonna have to break it down into different blog posts.

I thought I would start of with the biggest life change in my life so far; I am now engaged. Yes, me and my girlfriend (now fiancée) have decided after 5 and a half years to get married. I have always had a massive idea about how I thought it would/should be done, I think every guy does. You know what I’m talking about – take the girl to it he most expensive restaurant in the world, get down on one knee, expose a rock so large you can’t look directly at it without fear of going blind, and give the most important love felt speech in your life. Suffice to say it did not go down this way. It ended up being a sporadic, on the spur moment, driven by impulse. It was a nice summer’s eve, and my girlfriend and I were sitting in the garden. I looked into her eyes, and I asked myself what I was waiting around for? I knew I wanted to be with her, so what was the point in waiting around? It felt right.. and I asked her.

I have always put pressure on myself to do it the “right” way. I want to give my girl everything, including the romance she deserves, and I had plans to achieve this. So initially I kind of thought I had let myself down by proposing in this way. But the more I thought about it, and discussed this with my fiancée, the more I was happy with the way we’d done it. The thing is I as many other people I know are not earning that much money, and that if I were to save up £2000+ for a ring it would take a fairly long amount of time. In the current job market, there is no way in hell I’m going to be able to get that sort of expendable cash quickly, and to be honest we’d rather put that money towards getting married sooner. To us its more about the love between us, and these physical things aren’t that important to us, we just wan’t to be together.

Now don’t get me wrong, if you know your other half wants to be spoiled and you have the money to achieve this easily then go for it, there’s nothing wrong with that. But don’t be fooled into thinking that is the most important thing to a proposal. What matters is the love between you, and if you’re both on the same page, and you both know you want to spend the rest of your lives together then why wait?

I’m tired of being stuck on the same page of life. I’m ready to start a new chapter right now.

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